It’s Okay to Say No!

In our pursuit of entrepreneurship and financial freedom, we often push ourselves to limits we cannot fathom.

This means that we are constantly stressed, tired, ready to quit, losing faith, regaining faith, and many other feelings that makes us feel crazy! That also means that we are over-committing ourselves to things that we shouldn’t commit to in hopes that the commitment will somehow, some way come back to us, or help us get to where we want to be.

The truth is it’s not about just doing things HOPING they will help you. You need to do things with purpose. They must fulfill you or they must bring you something of value in return. Sound selfish? Well it’s not. Here is why…

“If you aren’t happy and healthy, you are worthless to your family.”

You are only as successful as you feel. If you are constantly saying yes to people and getting nothing in return, it is taking time from you building yourself and your career , and it is draining you. It is draining you of everything that is left in you that you can give to those who need it, appreciate it, and will give you the same back in return to refuel you. It is stealing from your family. It is stealing the bit of energy you have left inside of you that you can use to give to your family. If you aren’t happy and healthy, you are worthless to your family. THEY NEED YOU.

Now I know people are going to say, “ You are suppose to give without expecting anything in return!”, and while that is true, this isn’t about that. There is a difference between supporting those who need it and being taken advantage of, and being stolen from. If you are constantly giving, you have no room to receive, and that is not fair at all! You cannot do things without expecting something in return if you never feel fulfilled. Keep trying that and tell me how you feel. It’s different if you are feeling fulfilled, but I bet if you keep saying yes because you “know it will come back to you”, you will be drained, and you’ll die waiting! You can be a good person and support people and STILL say no to their requests.You can say yes to those who help you, support you, and nurture your growth, but you need to rid yourself of those who constantly ask, take, and disappear when you are looking for help with with your own growth. When you say yes to the right people, you do so because you truly do not expect anything in return because you simply know that if/when the roles are reversed, there is not even a question that they will be there.

When you are constantly helping people build, build, build, you have to remember what you are helping them build… THEMSELVES. Not your dream, but THEIR dream. Everyone is successful when each helps the other build their dream. If you are constantly helping others build their own, you leave no room or energy to build your own and no energy to help those that respect the process.

So when you are tired, stressed out, trying to get your business to the next level, be selective in your yes’s and be at peace with your no’s, because in the end, you have two types of people. The “givers” and the “takers”. People will take everything from you, but only a few will give. Sound contradictory? Go back two paragraphs.

Have no regrets through your journey. It’s okay to say no to people, and it’s not selfish one bit. In fact, it is selfless, because you are saving room for your family, your loved ones, and your dream…

Joe Ruiz, Jr. is a Social Media Manager ( , entrepreneur, and coach. You can follow him on social media as well:

Invest in Relationships

All Relationships are an investment.

You should treat every one of your relationships as such. Whether it be business or personal. You need to decide how much you are going to invest, and if the investment is worth it. Do you need to invest your time, money, energy into a business relationship that is one-sided and you are not seeing any return? A romantic relationship that is one-sided and/or toxic?

“Stop investing in something that will NEVER bring you anything in return.”
The answer is NO. The truth is, if you want to be successful AND happy, you need to start investing in those things that create that success and happiness. So stop wasting time, energy, money, on people who bring zero value to your life. STOP. RIGHT NOW. Stop investing in something that will NEVER bring you anything in return. One-sided friendships, where you are constantly being pulled to rescue someone, but they are not there when you need them, or they don’t support your happiness, goals, success. Stop trying to force business relationships that you are only giving (Note: you should always give without expectation. The key is though, to NEVER be taken advantage of!). Don’t waste your time on people that want nothing to do with you. Stop chasing.

Instead, invest in those in your inner circle who ARE supporting you. Those who ARE invested in your friendship, your love, and your business relationship. Why would you chase people who don’t want to invest in you? Don’t want you to succeed. Don’t want to give you love in return. INVEST in people who return your investment and you will receive more in return. Provide VALUE to those who believe in you, want you to succeed, are current customers/clients, those who have given to you, and returned investment. Share with them your knowledge, expertise, wisdom, etc. These are your investors. These are the people that have been with you from the beginning and they will continue to grow with you, even help you continue to grow. PROVIDE THEM WITH VALUE and INVEST IN THEM.

Lastly, those you’ve invested in will return your investment by paying you what you are worth. They won’t expect the “friend or family discount”, the hook-up, or anything free. All they want is what they already expect from you… VALUE. People pay premium for value. If someone is asking you for a discount, “why is it so much?”, or for you to lower your prices for them, then you need to simply just walk away. They are disrespecting you and your value. Do not invest in them. I would never walk into Target and demand a discount, and neither would they… (you can always help people out, but again, never get taken advantage of)


Remember, as small business owners and entrepreneurs, you are in an uphill battle. You are crapped on. You are belittled. You are frustrated. You are bitter. Your friends and family are the LAST people you will convince to buy your product, to shop at your store, use your services. This is because they see you as “Little Joey”, or just their friend. That is why it is up to you to convince them without even trying. You need to establish yourself as an expert in your field. Once they see this, you will find out who the believers are. THIS is why social media is so key to your success today. More than ever, it allows you to network outside of your inner circle and helps you get out of your comfort zone easier and faster. Once you do this, you will see people coming to you that wouldn’t before. Simply because they now see you as an influencer in your field.

Joe Ruiz, Jr. is a Social Media Manager ( , entrepreneur, and coach. You can follow him on social media as well:


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